Hello, my name is Lenore. I’ve already come out of the closet as it pertains to my religious views. I am a Christian. I’ve already come out of the closet as it pertains to my political views. I vote Republican. However, there is one thing I have kept close to my chest.
I fear disclosing this fact will open the door to insults, accusations, and violence. I feel sharing this information will require me to become concerned about the safety of my life and the life of my family. (Thankfully, admitting my Republican voting Christian ways only brought good tidings and warm wishes from everyone.)
We live in a world where hate-speak flows like a waterfall. The instant I reveal my secret, my world will be flooded with hate and judgment. Again, quite the opposite happened when I opened up about my political and religious views.
Maybe, just maybe the world will accept my latest admission.
My name is Lenore Diane, and I have a vagina. In fact, I’ve had sex, and I have two kids as a result of the sex.
Go ahead. Judge me. That’s how the world works. We judge others, and when the others disagree, we put them in our cross-hairs.
When I was in my early twenties, I had several people tell me I looked like the actress/comedian Jane Curtain. Typically, after letting me know I looked like Jane, they would add the famous line, “Jane, you ignorant slut.”
That line was coined by Dan Aykroyd during the early years of Saturday Night Live. I was never offended by the line, I was more offended by the fact they said I looked like Jane. (No offense, Jane, but I was kind of hoping for Farrah Fawcett.)
During my late elementary and early high school years, the boys liked calling me a certain name that rhymed with Lenore. No, the name was not Deloris. (Sorry Seinfeld fans.) The boys called me ‘Lenore the whore’. Honestly, this was laughable. First, I did not get asked out by a guy until I was 19yrs old. Second, remember – I resembled Jane Curtain, not Farrah Fawcett. (And no, I do not think Farrah Fawcett was a whore.)
A friend of mine posted an article about Rush Limbaugh’s apology to Ms. Fluke about his derogatory comments directed at her. The article suggested Rush’s apology would not silence the critics. Then I posted two other articles about the reaction to the Rush Limbaugh story. I made the comment to my friend that I did not wholeheartedly disagree with the article he shared, but I was tired of the things others got away with in the media… namely Bill Maher.
My friend responded by suggesting I make an effort to hold Mr. Maher accountable for his hate-speak. I didn’t respond, instead I thought about his suggestion.
Good people of the blogosphere, I am tired of the hate-speak. I am tired of the negative campaigns. I am tired of the hate-inspired satires veiled in humor. I am tired of both sides blaming the other side. I am tired of each side turning a blind eye when their side spews hate about the other side.
Know what else? I am tired of women calling women b*****. I am tired of blacks calling blacks n******. I am tired of anyone and everyone that uses a derogatory word while trying to convince others they don’t mean it in a derogatory manner.
I am tired of the lack of respect in the world. I am tired of the steady stream of knee-jerk and split-second thoughts that fill every facet of social media, all typed out quickly, in the heat of the moment, without a pause for reflection.
I’m tired of the hate-speak. I am tired of the hate-speak on all sides.
We are all free to express our opinions. Thanks to anonymity and social media, expressing our opinions is easy. I think the greater skills (and discipline) lie in remaining quiet, putting opinions into actions rather than hot air.
Pardon me while I pull out my race Christian card:
Matthew 7:3 [NRSV]: “Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?”
Come on people, we all have our own idiot moments. Can we agree to disagree without spewing about how or why we disagree? Must every negative thought be shared? Negativity breeds negativity. Don’t be hater. It creates more haters. Is that fact not obvious yet?
Then again, I’m a Republican voting Christian with a vagina, whose name rhymes with whore and who resembles an ignorant slut. What the heck do I know?