A Thought About Helping Newtown, by Oma

On December 15th, my blogging friend, Oma, wrote a moving post about the tragedy in Newtown, CT. As a police officer, Oma relates to the first responders with first hand experience. What follows are his words. Please take a moment and read his thoughts. I hope you’ll reach out to the first responders in Newtown, too. One week, two weeks, even months later, they need our support. They never forget.


(image via newtown patch)
(image via newtown patch)

Those of you who’ve been coming here for a while know that I’ve been a police officer for, well, a really long time.

My colleagues and I tend to minimize what we do. We’ve all got our assigned specialties or things we do because we’re good at them. To say we do them routinely is a disservice to those acts. Perhaps the best way to say it is that we do them well without thinking about what it looks like to our peers and the public.

As an example, I have a particular specialized assignment. It suits me. Other officers ask me how I do it, how I put up with some aspects of that assignment and finish the conversations with “I couldn’t do what you do”.

The thing is, the person who is saying those things to me might be a detective who investigates fatal traffic accidents, or a vice officer who deals with unspeakably bad folks, or someone who runs 911 calls all day every day and never sees anyone who is having a good day. They all look at what I do and say “I couldn’t do what you do”. The funny thing is, I say the same thing back to them. I don’t know how my friends investigate child sex abuse cases. I’ll work drug cases, but I don’t like them. I’ve handled traffic fatalities, but how someone does so over and over is beyond me.

There are two things that we all agree on when we bump into one another in the hall. One is that we all have great jobs that are sadly necessary. The other is that there is always someone else who has it worse.

Connecticut State Police(Photo credit: scoutnurse)
Connecticut State Police (Photo credit: scoutnurse)

My brothers and sisters in the Newtown Police Department, the Connecticut State Police and the other agencies who are assisting them following the school shootings had it worse yesterday. I watched the news and could only imagine the things they were seeing, the emotions they were feeling and the awful work they were doing because someone had to. I am proud of them, I hope you are too.

I hope you are because they were there all night, and will be all day today and into next week. And next month, when this is off our radar, they will still be dealing with it.

They’ll deal with the work and they’ll act like it isn’t a big deal. Kids and grandkids will get silent hugs that are inexplicably strong, then the hugger will walk away and act like nothing’s wrong. Something will be wrong.

When I first started working, when “something was wrong” the expectation was that who ever had the problem would fix it. Not fixing it, or struggling to fix it was a sign of weakness. Things have changed and there are programs in place in most agencies to assist officers in dealing with the emotional stress of the job. I was happy to hear it said that all who were on the scene of the school shooting would be mandated to attend counseling.

I’d like to ask you to do something to help them fix what’s wrong. This isn’t in place of the things many of you are doing, like writing the school or making donations to those who will be helping Newtown families. I’m adding to your to do list. Take a moment and write a note to the Newtown Police Department or the Connecticut State Police.

Do you know who else needs to hear from you? The firefighters and paramedics, because seriously, I couldn’t do that.

I’ll tell you from experience that whatever you send will eventually drift down to the people who need to see them. They’ll sit in an office or a roll call room. Officer, paramedics and fire fighters will look them over in a quiet moment. Later, they’ll think of what they read and your thoughts will make that “something that is wrong” just a little better.

You’ll know what to write. The people who need to see it, will see it. It will help.

Here is where to find the addresses of the…

Newtown Police Department

The Fire Departments serving Newton

Newtown Volunteer Ambulance Corps

Connecticut State Police

Sandy Hook Vol. Fire and Rescue

Spread the word. Let’s help them all.

I’m updating with the addresses as quickly as I can since the links seem to be swamped and not responding. Bear with me.

Newtown Police Dept
3 Main St
Newtown, CT 06470


Newtown Ambulance Service
75 Main St
Newtown, CT 06470


Connecticut State Police
90 Lakeside Rd
Southbury, CT 06488


Sandy Hook Vol. Fire and Rescue
18-20 Riverside Rd/Po Box 783
Sandy Hook, CT 06482


14 thoughts on “A Thought About Helping Newtown, by Oma

  1. I wish to thank our first responders. They are our unsung heroes. We seem to forget that they are people with families to that waits for them at the end of the day yet when needed they offer their lives for the community they serve. People also forget that they are just humans and also get emotionally and psychologically affected even if they don’t show it. I work in the E.R. and people have this notion that we are tough and ready to face anything. They don’t see that we cry silently when we loose a patient especially little ones who reminded us of our very children. Moving post that a must read for all. Merry Christmas and best wishes to your family.

    1. Thank you so much for all you do, working in the ER. My sister worked in ICU and CCU for many, many years. Words cannot express my gratitude for those working in hospitals. So grateful. Merry Christmas.

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