My New Bed Partner

I’ve dreamed of this moment for years. While laying in bed, waiting for sleep to find me, I visualized myself surrounded in warmth. Thoughts of cuddling with my new partner, always put a smile on my face. Yet, with the rise of the morning sun, the smile would set on my face. Rob pushed back. Not ready to share his bed, he discouraged me taking on a new partner.

In an effort to win Rob’s approval, I would show him pictures of my harmless (yet fulfilling) partner. I assumed the simple look of my friend would ease Rob’s insecurities. I assured Rob that I would still need him, even with my new friend. And, I tried to explain to Rob that he might like sharing his bed. I mentioned several benefits Rob would gain by welcoming my friend in the bedroom. Alas, Rob was not convinced. Though my dreams continued, it seemed as though my friend and I would remain separated.

I’m not sure how it happened, and I’m not sure what changed his mind. But one afternoon, Rob came to me, perhaps realizing my fantasy was not diminishing but growing; with a look of caution and curiosity, he told me I could make my dream a reality. Excitement filled my heart, as I thought about my new bed partner. Immediately, I made arrangements to get my partner to the house, and I counted down the days . . .

Gone were the nights of turtle necks and wool socks. Gone were the nights of adding layer upon layer before bed vs. removing layer upon layer before bed. With my new partner, the desire to undress myself was reborn.

As I prepared to share my bed with my new friend, I slowly removed my socks. I slowly removed my other socks. I slowly removed my sweat pants. I slowly removed my leg warmers. I took a break and went to the bathroom. When I returned, I noticed my new partner was starting to get worked up and warmed up. I continued preparing for my partner by slowly removing my long underwear. I slowly removed my sweatshirt. I slowly removed my t-shirt. I slowly removed my turtleneck. I slowly removed my undershirt. And there I was, for the first time in years … standing before my new partner, barefooted and wearing nothing but a simple pair of pajamas.

I jumped into bed, wrapped myself in the warmth of my new partner and sighed. Thank you, Rob. I love my new electric blanket.

Okay, Okay – I admit it.

Okay, so I could think of a gabillion (plus one) excuses for why we did what we did. First, Rob had a business meeting out of town today, so he wasn’t home for supper. Second, I am feeling a little anxious about the burial Rob and I are attending this week. However, I’m not here to make excuses. I am here to own up to what we did tonight. And by ‘we’ – I mean, Joe, Charlie and me.

I asked the boys what they wanted for supper. The boys told me what they wanted for supper. We stopped at the store. We bought supper, and I bought a little something extra. Obesity on the rise? Diabetes on the rise? Please. Those are battles folks are fighting because they do not take good care of themselves. My family doesn’t have to worry about obesity and diabetes.

Before dinner, we exercise:

Working up an appetite for dinner.

And, while Dad is away on business, we focus on eating well. May your dinners be as well-rounded and healthy. And remember, take care of yourself and each other. Cheers!

Dinnder for three. And yes, the larger container is mine. All mine.

This, that and another Friday

.:: Wait a second; who put that there?
After dinner out one night this week, Rob and I were walking to our car. Rob started walking to the wrong red car. When he realized it, he started laughing.

“Remember when my parents borrowed my car, and I used my Mom’s car for a week?” He asked.

“Yes.” I replied.

“Well, I took my Mom’s car to the grocery store one day. When I came out of the grocery store, I got in the car and got ready to drive away. But, I noticed something.”

He continued, “The seat was leaned way back, and I didn’t remember reclining the seat at all.”

Then he started laughing hard. “I looked around inside the car, and I realized I was in the wrong car!”

I laughed and said, “That’s funny. I have a similar story. I didn’t share it with you because I was too embarrassed.”

“During a trip to Target, I walked away from my cart to look through the clothes. I didn’t find anything, and I went back to my cart and continued shopping. I went to the card section to buy several birthday cards. I was probably there for 10 minutes. When I was done, I put all the cards in the cart. Then I realized, it wasn’t my cart!”

Rob and I start laughing.

“I went back to the clothes section, where I got the cart. I parked the cart, and slowly walked away. I pretended to look through the clothes, again. And, I noticed a woman come and take her cart away without a word. I felt like the biggest dork. I waited awhile before I went and retrieved my real cart.”

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Lost in thought with so many things on your mind.
All sorts of distractions, basically leaving you blind.

Where are the car keys? Who put that chair there?
I know I’m going some place; I just don’t remember where.

You make it home, thinking things could be worse.
You unload your car and realize that’s not your purse.

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.:: It’s All a Daze
Week two of my overnight part-time job. I am so glad Rob and I decided not to have a third child. Though the reasoning behind the ‘no more kids’ decision was based more on me being psycho and our relationship struggling than the genuine desire to increase the family.

Lacking a full-night’s worth of sleep for two days out of the week is really taking its toll on me and my over 40yr old self. I’m not more cranky without the sleep (Rob may beg to differ); I am just plain tired and lacking any sort of motivation and focus. (Though really, motivation was hard to find even with sleep.)

My son’s teacher is celebrated her birthday this week. My son came to me with an elaborate idea to make a special craft for his teacher’s birthday. He wanted to make a lesson for his teacher, similar to one she uses in his in class. I was impressed with his grand idea, and I wanted to see it through to fruition. Well, the day before his teacher’s birthday and a day after no sleep, I asked him if he was ready to start on the project. He said ‘no’.

If I was working with a weeks worth of sleep, I would not have accepted his ‘no’ response. In fact, I would have said, “Okay, Joe. You need to start working on your project.” However, because I am lacking sleep these days,  I said, “Ok.” And honestly, I was impressed with his idea; I thought his teacher would appreciate it; and, I was looking forward to having him tackle the task. Alas, I was too tired to push for it. This is one of those times where I will have to find satisfaction in knowing he had good and creative intentions. Then again, I’m so tired, I’ll probably forget that part, too.

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Sleep deprivation
Loopiness and no focus
Ooo pretty colors

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.:: Don’t go back to Rockville
Sleep will find me this weekend. In addition to sleep –  junk food, movies and great conversation will find me, too. This weekend, I am taking a road trip to meet a girlfriend of mine. (Meeting a boyfriend of mine would be a bit odd, seein’ as I am married.)

I met my friend when I moved to Rockville, MD back in 1992. I moved back to Georgia two years later, after my father died. (No, I didn’t move back because I thought, ‘Woo hoo! My dad is gone. I can go home now!’ I moved back to be closer to my family, because I wasn’t able to get to my Dad in time.)

Even though I moved back to Georgia, my girlfriend in Maryland remained and remains one of my best friends. So this weekend, she is driving south, I am driving north and we will meet in the middle. Woo hoo! We’ve booked the hotel, and we’ll both arrive within minutes of check-in on Friday and leaving no earlier than check-out on Sunday. We’ve already discussed the junk food we’ll have in the room, as well as the movies. And, we’ve loaded ourselves up with books to read.

Though we are prepared with a plethora of entertainment, we’ll also bask in the quiet free time. Because we both have young kids (6 and 4, 5 and 4), we have a greater appreciation for quiet free time. Aaaaaah….. quiet free time.

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Hitting the road and heading out.
Spending time with a friend is what it’s about.

My time I’m a’wasting. I need to publish this post.
So, I can get in the car and head for the coast.

The coast is not really the destination this time.
But, I need to hurry, and I am trying to rhyme.

Okay, I’m going; hug hug – kiss kiss.
I didn’t even have to shave for this!

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Be good to yourself, and be kind to others.